Why People Take You For Granted

  • You are non confrontational. You hate conflict. They know you will never address an issue even if it bothers you.
  • You cannot refuse people. You just cannot say no. It kills you to decline requests. They know they can keep asking you for undue favors and you will always oblige.
  • You’re usually the one with no opinion. If you’re always ‘okay’ with any plan, if you rarely voice your wishes or dislikes, it is understandable why people take you for granted.
  • You are always seeking approval for your actions. You send out a message that you cannot function without people’s opinions and that’s exactly when people start to feel that they can control you.
  • You’re indecisive. You can never make up your mind about anything. And the moment you show the world you don’t know what you want, they start taking you for a ride.
  • You’re never the one to raise his voice against things you don’t approve of. People know you’re too shy (read scared) to stand up even for yourself and that gives them the liberty to wrong you every time. If you don’t raise your voice against being taken for granted once, it will happen again. Always.
  • You give people too much importance too soon. You go out of your way to help them when they don’t even need it; you give away exclusivity at the drop of a hat.
  • You’re always trying to please people and truth be told, nobody respects a people pleaser. Even when someone does take you for granted, you let it pass instead of putting your foot down and talking about it because you always want to be in everybody’s good books. You will do all it takes to make sure nobody thinks ill of you. You really need to stop doing that. Stop fearing disapproval.
  • You have low self confidence. It looks like you’re keeping shut about it because you’re not sure of how you feel or you’re not sure if it is worth fighting for.
  • You’re too easy a person. While it is a great trait to be adjusting, if you make yourself look like a doormat, you’re going to be taken for granted a lot in life. Know how to be adjusting and yet firm.




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